Would Your Dog Praise You? Redefining 'Good' Dog Ownership

If your dog could talk, what would they say about you? No, I don't mean if your messy or eat snacks late at night. I mean would they praise you as often as you praise them, would they say "Good Job or thank you!" as many times as we say "Good dog!"?

It's a question many of us don't want to ask because we're too busy feeling guilty. We look at other dogs' lives and we worry about falling short, we fret over all the things we think we aren't doing. But in their eyes, are they judging us for what we aren't doing or do they appreciate the effort we do make?

This post is a reminder that a "good" owner isn't a label you earn from perfection; it's the feeling of love and trust that you build every day with your dog from knowing that your doing your best.

The Guilt-Inducing Triggers

Over the years I've encountered so many owners who whether they have a new puppy, living through the adolescent phase, discussing adult dogs or those they have had in the past. They will often feel guilty about what they aren't doing or what might happen and although this often comes from a place of love, it’s fed by things that don't really matter to our dogs.

• The Financial Squeeze: With the cost of living rising, many feel guilty about not being able to afford things like vet bills, insurance, dog walkers or training classes not to mention everyday treats, various toys, or whatever type food is popular. This routinely makes us feel inadequate and demoralised.

• The Comparison Game: We see it all the time on social media posts of dogs on grand adventures or with a mountain of designer toys or gear. Not to mention the multitude of experts telling you your doing it wrong and its your fault. This can make us feel like our own dogs are missing out and that we aren't good enough for them.

• The Time Crunch: You feel guilty for not spending enough time with your dog, not training them enough, not exercising them enough or providing them with everything we are told they need. Or even putting yourself first at times so you can be in the position to better their lives over the long term.

  
  

  

  Am I good enough or am I letting them down?

A Dog's Perspective

Let's look at things from a dog's point of view.

• They Don't Judge: Your dog isn't looking over at another dog in someone's house thinking, "I wish I lived with them instead of you." They don't care if you have a million followers on social media or a handful. They're not judging you for not bringing the same things to the table as another owner, they simply make the best with what they have and appreciate you for who you are.

• They Value the Simple Things: A dog's measure of a "good owner" isn't about money, status or perfection. They value consistency, your love or affection, safety, and your relationship. A simple routine and a handful of genuine moments of connection are more important than any expensive product.

  
  

  

  Doing your best is not about being perfect!

  
  

Low-Cost Ways to Be an Amazing Owner

You don't need to spend a lot of money to make your dog feel loved and enrich their life.

• Low-Cost Enrichment: Instead of buying expensive toys, use what you have. A cardboard box filled with old newspaper and treats to sniff out can be more fun than a store-bought puzzle. You can create a simple snuffle mat from an old towel.

  
  

  

  Be creative with what you have.

• Diverse Treats: Treats come in various forms, not just store-bought packages. Small pieces of carrot, some boiled chicken, or even a piece of their kibble can be a high-value reward when used at the right time.

  
  

  

  You never know what they might enjoy, you can check with your vet to make sure its safe.

• The Gift of Your Time: Your dog loves your presence. Ten minutes of dedicated, focused playtime or a quick training session with their favourite kibble can be more effective than an hour of distracted presence.

  
  

  

Practical Steps for Financial Peace of Mind

Financial worries are real, and it’s okay to need a little help. Looking after your dog’s health is a priority, and there are ways to manage this without feeling overwhelmed.

• Communicate with Your Vet: Don't be afraid to have an open conversation with your vet about your financial situation. Ask about payment plans, pet health plans that cover routine care, and if a generic or less expensive brand of medication is an option.

• Plan Ahead: Being proactive with your dog’s health can prevent expensive emergencies. Staying on top of routine vaccinations, prevention, and dental checks can save you from a major medical emergency hit down the line.

• Mobility Issues: If you are unable to walk your dog and can't afford a dog walker, do you have anyone who may be interested in doing this for you for free such as family, friends or even a neighbour? Some online community groups may have members who don't own their own pets but have spare time and would love to help others with this.

• Look into Support Organisations: The PDSA could offer free and low-cost veterinary care to owners who receive certain benefits. It's a fantastic resource that exists to help people at certain times. The Dogs Trust also has resources and information for owners needing help with the cost of living.

  
  

  

Ultimately, your dog would be happy to give you a "good owner" paw shake every single day. Don't let guilt stand in between you and your dog building a better relationship each day. They see your efforts, feel your love, and appreciate the security and joy you bring to their lives.